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knowing when to say goodbye

Zoe

On Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays I typically take a brisk walk or jog around the neighborhood to get the old blood pumping before starting off my day at JobSyntax.  This morning I threw on my favorite pair of shorts and went out for my walk.  Now, I’ve had these shorts for a really long time.  They fit well and are this meshy material that feels good against your skin.  They are also a piece of nostalgia since they carry my university's initials.  I love them.

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Today was different though.  As I was walking one of my normal routes, I noticed the shorts were suspiciously creeping down my waist to my hips and starting to sag lower and lower.  I kept hitching them up and finally had to resort to using the draw string which didn’t help in the end.  Alas, I came to the conclusion that the elastic is shot.  It’s time for a new pair of shorts.  Which got me thinking about knowing when it’s time to say goodbye to an old friend.  And even more fittingly for the career-o-sphere, when do you know it’s time to say goodbye to your current company?

When I first started my career, I got some sage advice from a relative of Evan’s they called Unckie.  Unckie was a really successful guy and did a lot of great things.  Before he died he wrote all this wisdom down and passed it along to his kids and extended family.  The one thing that stuck with me through all these years was his opinion that you should only stay with your first company for a max of 5 years, learn everything you can and then move on.  That’s great, but what about the job after that or more importantly what if you are in a position where you’re thinking about leaving?  Using my dear, ill-fitting shorts as an analogy, think of the waist band as your company, here are two possible thoughts on knowing when it’s time to part ways. 

The elastic quits – After many years of loving comfort you’re starting to realize that your shorts are drifting down to your knees.  In the business world, you may find yourself swimming adrift in the sea of change within your company; maybe they grew too quickly, maybe they added new management, or maybe decided to go in another direction that doesn’t support your goals.  At this point, all you know is that there is nothing there to hold you up.  You’ve tried everything you can; belts, safety pins, etc, but all you get is unsightly bunching and in the end it’s just a band-aid measure.    

Your waistband is too tight – Ah, the dreaded muffin top.  You’re starting to feel the squeeze.  You’re expanding and there’s no where else for you to go.  Yep, you’ve gone and outgrown your company.  You still love them and feel a certain sense of loyalty, but realize that you’ve learned everything there is to learn.  You’ve reached the top position you can at the company and now you have to move on.

In either case, I think that these things tend to sneak up on you.  One day things seem to be going really well and than BAM! You realize that something significant has changed.  The hard part then is to figure out the best way to leave your company that’s treated you so well. 

So today, as I lovingly say farewell to my favorite shorts, think about the reasons why you are staying with your current company.  Are you getting all you can from them?  Are they getting all they can from you?  What are your reasons for staying?  What are your reasons for leaving? 

And, if you are feeling daring, what’s your advice to the future jobseekers of America?  What would you tell your children in years to come?

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Published Monday, July 10, 2006 1:43 PM by Zoe
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Chris Haaker said:

Did you go to Case Western? :)
July 10, 2006 2:39 PM
 

Mike Kinney said:

Very interesting post Zoe,

Sorry for your loss. :(  

This particular post hits home with me.  I feel that I am in an interesting situation.  I have surpassed the 5 year window with my first "real" company.  I was one of the late bloomers.  I went to college out of high school to focus on computer science and mechanical engineering only to join the army after one quarter.  Why not have the govt pay for my education?  Well, that's another story so I'll just go on to my situation.

I started with this company straight out of ITT Tech with my CADD degree.  It was a contractor for the local cable giant at the time, TCI.  I was quickly moved into a lead/supervisory role with so much upside to the organization that it was mind boggling.  With all of the promises from management saying that one day I would be their boss and so on.  Very encouraging since I developed relationships with every other employee I worked with and they simply said they never heard that for themselves.  (I wasn't prying or bragging, they would all look up to me simply because of the way I presented myself to them and how easy I was to approach.)

Anyway, our entire group was asked to join TCI full time (in which I hired in most of them myself through the interview process that my manager decided to let me do.)  This presented even more opportunities for growth and the new management was quickly made aware of my input and they too started talking the same lingo.  They would come to me one day for a job and so on.  

Okay, so now why am I in the situation I am currently in?  Things looked great and I was hearing all of the great things.  Well, what happened was that we went through ownership changes.  AT&T decided they wanted in the mix and bought us out.  That lead to the first round of big layoffs that really impacted our group and the overall structure.  I was shifted from one engineering group into another (mainly kept on because of who I am and knowing that I could easily adapt to the new position) while almost all of my team was let go.

The problem?  The management structure didn't get reduced with the reduction in employees.  Instead of 8 to 15 employees reporting to a manager it was now 3 to 6 with no supervisors.  All supervisor titles were removed.  Then Comcast took over and the whole process started again.  In 2003 (4 years after I started and by now I'm well into my business degree programs) Comcast cut us even deeper.  This time they at least cut many of the manager roles as well.  I was the only person left from my original group.  It speaks to my abilities and talents (and possibly the respect that I had built up quickly) but it also ended up being a double edged sword.  I don't even report to a manager anymore.  I am in a special position that no one else can do and report directly to a regional manager.  That means there are only 2 people between myself and the VP of engineering for our entire state.  Nowhere for me to go.

So even though this company has treated me with great respect by keeping me through all of these major moves (as well as providing me with the means for achieving two major degrees, one of which is an MBA) they have also put me in an odd spot.  They cannot promote me unless the VP, Director or Regional manager leaves because of the way they have now structured things.  This means that my comfy shorts are now worn thin and ready to be replaced.

My advice to anyone else that could find themselves in a situation like this is to never settle down in a comfortable role.  Always look for ways to expand your knowledgebase of all aspects of the organization you work in.  What could happen if you don't is that you will become specialized in one area and then you will become too valuable to move.  So take chances and get noticed.

Great subject Zoe and again, sorry about the loss. :)

Mike
July 10, 2006 4:30 PM
 

Zoe said:

Hey Chris - Yep, proud grad of the good ole CWRU.  You too or just a fan of obscure mid-west universities? :)

Mike - great advice!  This exactly is the case that I was thinking of when I made the muffin top comment.  And thank you for the condolences - *sniff* - they'll be replaced, but never forgotten.
July 10, 2006 5:09 PM
 

tod hilton said:

Hmm, forget all that philosophical stuff. All I have to say is congratulations on losing the weight that caused your college shorts to become to big. ;-)
July 10, 2006 5:51 PM
 

Yvonne LaRose said:

Well, I think you're the one who writes the haiku, right? We're of the same ilk. And I'm a fixer before finally saying goodbye (born under the sign of the Crab, I hold on to everything for as long as there's a *thread*). So the elastic was shot? Just pull it out while watching TV and then replace it!

And with the job, invent a new position that requires an entirely new focus that is built upon the one you currently hold.

Sorry for your loss.
July 11, 2006 4:27 PM
 

Zoe said:

Thanks Tod!  I wish that were the case, I actually think that they've just expanded over time.

Yvonne - nope, I'm not the Haiku girl, that would be Gret.  I wish it were that easy, but the elastic is woefully stitched to the meshy fabric.  Pulling it out would mean more damage to the poor things.  Also, I just ain't that crafty :)
July 16, 2006 12:16 PM
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